Family Law Partners
PUBLISHED: 12:02 22 January 2013 | UPDATED: 22:38 20 February 2013
MAKE 2013 THE YEAR TO COMMUNICATE<br/><br/>Linda Lamb, Director at Family Law Partners, explains how mediation can be an effective and positive way of dealing with family issues.
Communication is often the key when experiencing a separation.
If you do not find ways to agree issues you may be left leaving it to a Judge. Why should someone else tell you what is best for you and your children?
The answer - try to talk to each other! Why not try FAMILY MEDIATION.
Family Mediation does not mean:-
- the mediator will be trying to get you back together;
- you are going to lose out financially.
Family mediation will mean:-
- You have an input into what will happen;
- The cost will be much less than litigation;
- The children might be able to have their say (depending on age);
- You can both retain your dignity.
Mediation wont be pain free, but its a very positive way to deal with a difficult situation. One positive spin-off is that it will also give you the opportunity to start using the communication skills that you will need to rely on in the future. When you have young children the need for rational and balanced discussions with your former partner does not stop after the initial agreements have been reached.
During the mediation meetings there may be tears, but there may also be laughter. You are encouraged to talk about your shared experiences, particularly of bringing up your children. It is often too easy at the end of a relationship to only remember the bad times. Most relationships will have had good times and these should not be forgotten.
Make sure that you use a Mediator that is fully qualified with the Family Mediators Association or Resolution and consider using a Lawyer Mediator.
Go on, start to communicate now for the rest of your life. You and your children wont regret it.